Anonymous wrote . .

Anonymous wrote . .  . 

"perhaps RL rules don't apply to SL, given the fact that in SL almost all prohibitions are taken away by the anonymity afforded by this medium.  so, maybe you're looking for what you seek in the wrong place. for example, i know that sl is NOT the place to go to if you're looking for a long term relationship. it's just too easy for people to create an alt and do stupid things behind your back no matter how much they profess to love you."

    

      ive written about my thoughts on all this before in this blog.  But, i will indulge Anonymous and reiterate what ive already said elsewhere.

     SL is whatever people want it to be.  Without intentionally putting you this category and without making insinuations, what you just said is the argument fantasists and sexual predators online use.  Unless people are upfront about why they are in SL or online for that matter and upfront about what their expectations are for an online relationship or dynamic, then really they are just deceiving others by omission.

     it kind of appalling, the type of mentality it takes for people to assume because they are in sl doing things they probably shouldnt even be doing, then in their messed up minds they assume everyone else is online or in SL doing it.  i have it on good authority there are people in SL who arent like that.  So, your argument that everyone is doing it and that makes it ok is absolutely riddled with inconsistencies   i dont mean to be harsh.  But, people come online and manipulate other people emotionally in order to control them without taking any responsibility for their own behavior or any responsibility for their own submissives wellbeing.  Thats not D/s, online or RL.  im offended anytime i see the sanctity of authentic D/s made a mockery of.  its not right.  it gives people the wrong impression of what D/s is about.

     youve made some assumptions about me you probably shouldnt have.  But, thats ok because alot of people make assumptions about me that are completely false and untrue.  if youd read my profile in SL it would be very obvious why im in sl and what im about.  it says in my profile im not even looking for an Owner there.  But even if i was, i shouldnt have to justify myself.  i have as much right to be there as anyone else, maybe more right to be there since ive been in sl off and on since Nov 2005.  And, since im not in sl cheating on a rl husband or neglecting small children in rl in order to be there.  Which ive seen people do often in SL, btw.  As far as im concerned, im not the one who needs to reevaluate their existence in SL.  Also, i would like to point out that ive been approached by several men who were interested in transitioning into rl with me but i rejected their collars because of rl incompatibility.  So youre assumption that people are not looking to connect or transition into rl is also a fallacy.  ive seen several people in sl who are interested in rl.  and i personally know more then a few people who have successfully taken a relationship from sl into rl.  Infact, im a member of Real Life BDSM Connections, a group and sim founded by my friend Indigo Alchemi that was started for this very reason.  In order to bring rl lifestylers together both online and potentially real life as well.   Neither the sim nor the group would exist if there wasnt a need for it in SL.

     The reason im not actively looking for a rl Dominant in sl to Own me is because i have standards and requirements that would have to be met before i would even consider offering my real submission online or in real life.  i keep an open mind about meeting a Dominant anywhere.  and why shouldnt i?  As difficult as it is to find a compatible D/s dynamic in rl or online, i would be really stupid not to at least be open to the idea of submitting even online even in sl if it might lead to something real.  and in the very front of my profile it says im not a roleplayer.  im a real life trained D/s submissive.  i have nothing in common with sl roleplayers online for cheap sex.  or even more revolting, the ones who are real about it, but just so far as it suits them, without taking any responsibility for anything they do.  Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too but im telling you kharma is a bitch and has a way of coming back to bite people in the ass, yes, even online.  And if anyone thinks im wrong that just means they are too much of a n00b to figure it out yet.  But, they will  LOL  trust me, they will.  Pick your scenerio because not all the lessons SL offers are pleasant ones.