the blind man

V******: I would say that a submissive accepts that the Dom takes responsibility for her physical safety, but the Daddy protects the little one's emotional safety

V****** grins

V******: Apparently my keen observation has left you speechless

Swan Quartz: not speechless.  i just agree with you about it

V******: I see (said the blind man to his deaf dog)

Swan Quartz: well i mean honestly, those very qualities that make a Daddy Dom desirable are counter-intuitive to your lifestyle.   so, i agree completely with you but im skeptical you could foster that type of trust in a submissive

V******: Thank you for that insight

Swan Quartz: youre so very welcome.  i live to serve

Flip the Script

     i was having some difficulty scrolling down pages and in browsers including SL yesterday because my mouse wasnt responding much of the time.  i spent a few hours trying to fix it.  But, im not a computer tech and frankly its always a wild guess for me to try different things to fix whatever issue im having and hope im not screwing my comp up worse than before i started troubleshooting.  i tried a bunch of different things like running a virus detection program and running defrag and removing quicktime and flash, reinstalling them, doing the hokey pokey and turning myself around, clicking my heels together three times.  turns out my mouse is just getting old and i need to apply a tiny bit more pressure against the mousepad in order for it to glide properly.

yes im a idiot.

Might as Well

Listen

I don't understand your heart
It's easier to be apart 

Thank You

     Eww you know being an unowned submissive can be a nightmare sometimes in such a misogynistic atmosphere.  it can make even the most cheerful submissive want to eat glass just to end the degradation.  But, i love my friends in Second Life !  im a lucky girl in that way.  i dont take other people's kindness for granted and im constantly amazed by the generosity of the people i meet online.  They are very emotionally supportive of me.  its humbling and touches my heart.  People are not obligated to care about me or anything going on with me.  But, i genuinely get the nicest ims probably of anyone in SL.  There are people who i dont even know very well but because im a high profile personality, they feel know me.  They go out of their way to contact me and offer support and kind words to me every day. i need all that love and kindness people are offering so thank you so very much from the bottom of my heart.  i really do love you guys.

Consequences

     There is no chance in hell of me submitting to any of the men who have been messaging me so they need to stop forming a line waiting for their turn to use me.

     Another thing that was really getting on my nerves is all the subs whove immed me lately to complain about how they are being treated by tops in sl.  They end up in terrible horrifying situations with tops online that just make my mouth hang open in shock.  i wont betray anyones trust by using names but one female who is a submissive had cancer in RL and she hooked up with a high profile top in Second Life who wanted to control her in RL too. Since she wanted to please him, she obeyed him in RL for anything he desired.  One day, after her chemotherapy, he told her to go for a walk outside i guess for exercise.  He knew she has cancer and had just done chemo.  She collapsed during her walk and had to be taken to the emergency room.  She almost died in RL . . after serving an inexperienced top in Second Life.

     People always want to try to diminish the importance of what happens online.  i can not tell you how many arguments ive had with people in SL because they try to suggest submissives cant really be controlled online.  They can always just log out right?  Listen, i agree that submissives should try to take some responsibility for the decisions they make and what happens to them online.  HOWEVER, can we please try not to forget that this isnt just roleplay for real submissives?  if they give their power to someone, even online, its still real power they are giving.  its still Real Life.  and honestly, if its not real power then its not real bdsm or D/s.  only roleplaying.  Tops are always pressuring submissives to trust them, surrender to them.  But, then when subs actually do it, the same tops want to claim they are not responsible for the submission theyve taken.  You cant have it both ways ffs.  Ultimately, the tops and Doms who take control of real life subs have a real life responsibility.  The responsibility ALWAYS lands squarely on the Dom's shoulders, not the submissives and there is a reason for that.  the reason is real life subs are vulnerable in a  way other types of people are not.  and im sick of people trying to say thats not true.  it is true.  Sorry for venting but actually im not sorry.  are these morons gonna wait until the police come to take them and their computers away before they realize there are consequences?

why Vanilla matters

     i feel its more important sometimes to be a friend to someone you care about than just focus on the dynamic you might share or your romantic involvement.  Being a friend first before anything else shows alot more caring and love in my opinion than kneeling to them does.  Online you know, its easy to think that the dynamic is all there is or all that matters.  But, i learned from my misadventures with a previous Owner that if you only have a dynamic and nothing else to fall back on when the routine of daily life or emergencies pop up that are unanticipated, then the entire thing can crumble and end in a snap of your fingers.  Or once the trust is broken, its over.  just like that.  it doesnt matter how deep or intense your D/s dynamic is.  if you are not friends and lovers first, if there is no vanilla relationship outside of a bdsm or D/s dynamic, then its doomed to fail.

Love can not exist inside a vacuum.

Antics

ѕ*****: Swaaaan. I bought a cape cloak black fluttery thing. Am I a Master now?

F*****: yep all u need

Swan Quartz giggles like a maniac . . . almost got it  ѕ*****. . . all you need now is a shiny belt buckle

ѕ*****: But.

ѕ*****: This has a belt buckle.

ѕ*****: It's a pretty big one too.

Swan Quartz: ok well do you have the boots?

ѕ*****: What could be better than jet boots?

Swan Quartz: you cant be a Master without black leather boots

D******** grinns

D********: Sneakers won’t do.

ѕ*****: They're latex. Close enough. People will see my belt buckle and be like " Woah. Step back. He's clearly a Master. "

Swan Quartz: well i think you are all set   ѕ***** now all you have to do is bark at someone you dont even know and insist they come to you and kneel. that ought to do the trick

ѕ*****: Hm..

ѕ*****: Yeah I can do that.

ѕ*****: I'm all set. Awesome.

Swan Quartz: oh and also insist some stranger call you Sir or even better Master S***** . . .youll have them eating out of your hand

C********: Btw. you have to curse Swan cause she orders you to do things :P

ѕ*****: Like goats eating paper bags.

Swan Quartz: lmao

ѕ*****: Yeah. What're you doing, telling me how to be a Master? I've a belt buckle, you know.

Swan Quartz: yeah and also you have to tell me that im not a true sub because all Masters know im not a true submissive

ѕ*****: Kneel or do a trick or something. Make it flash. Please.

ѕ*****: Am I allowed to say please?

Swan Quartz: no because only gentlemen have manners. and Masters arent supposed to be gentlemen

ѕ*****: This is hard work. Damn.

ѕ*****: Better order a stranger to get me a drink then lecture them or something.

d*******: loving you swan :)

Swan Quartz: tell me about it. thats why i became a sub. im too lazy and stupid to be a Dominant